“I Chased My Wife’s Pastor Out Of My House, Now I Am In Trouble” – Man Laments

A pastor has put asunder what God has joined together after his encounter with a man’s wife.

A worried Nigerian man has narrated how a pastor has ruined his marriage which is on the brink of collapse. He explained that he had dragged the man out of his house because of his incessant uninvited visits, as a result the wife has now packed out of the house.

Read the story shared by relationship expert, Cynthia Valerian Raphaels below:

Madam Cynthia, I was among the people that said I will never come to social media for advise about my marriage but I am almost losing my mind . My wife wants to drive me insane . I don’t know why a young girl like her will be so stubborn and won’t listen to me. She is at her parents place as I am writing to you. She left on her own, I never sent her home. I came back home to my house and met her and her stupid pastor at her sitting room. She has this pastor madness. Everyday pastor this and dat. We will close from church, she will keep delaying us till I drive off without her and she doesn’t even care to come back with cab so far she listens to her pastor as she pleases .

I have told her that I don’t need all these. Sometimes she will drop down at church on her way back from work to see pastor. I have asked her, what is the problem you are having that you can’t pray to God in secret that he won’t listen? she told me that pastor is more spiritual that us. She told me that for her not been able to conceive after 2 girls isn’t ordinary. After 7 years of marriage, we had twin girls. Our marriage is 14 years old. Please tell me, should I not be worried more than she? Her Pastor gave her fasting today, she is ending her fasting with her pastor tomorrow, that is all I hear. Baby I am on fasting, let’s not have sex to spoil it and a lot more. Some days she will put food on fire and leave the house,leaving her unfinished cooking for our house help of 15years to finish up because her pastor Called her to come over to the church immediately . I have had two occasions where she forgot to put SALT AND MAGGI in our food and we ate it just like that because before she came back, the girl has dished food for me and my girls. We had no choice but to eat the tasteless porridge beans. I love my wife madam Cynthia that I can forgive so many things on her part. She is 43 years.

The reason she is at home now is because she took that her pastor thing to my house. This man now comes to my house anytime in the name of I was passing along and I decided to drop bye. I met him one day when I got back from work and ordered him out of my house. When he started asking what happened, I dragged him out out to my gate and sternly warned him never again to step foot in my house. My wife vomited a lot of rubbish that day. Sometimes this useless man will come to my house and wait for my wife to get home. I have two girls with a house help a girl too. What of if he molest any of them and threaten them not to say? I don’t know if my wife knows about this at all? Since I dragged the man out, she became abusive. That she knows the reason she can’t conceive is from my parents and her pastor saw it and told her but it won’t work for us all. She called my mum and told her to tell me that if I didn’t go to her pastor and apologize, she will leave the marriage. I thought she was joking, she left to her parents place as she threatened. What she was telling people out there is that a laid my hands on a man of God and she can’t live with me with the curse I have inflicted on myself.

It is over two months she left and she isn’t feeling remorseful at all. I think she has decided on who to choose between I and her pastor. This man is a widower, most of the women in the church dance to his tune. I have even changed back to my roman Catholic Church after that incident because of the love I have for this woman, I left my church to change to hers after wedding because of this childlessness issues. I don’t need troubles in my life, so I have decided to divorce her and stay with my kids alone. If apologizing to that pastor is what will bring my wife home, then I want to remain a divorcee forever. What do you advise I do?